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Adam Collyer's avatar

I agree with all of this, David. All of it.

However, practicalities matter as much as principles when it comes to law.

How do you propose to control access to pornography? You can pass any law you like to ban access to pornographic websites. Any teenager will get around it in 30 seconds with a VPN.

I suppose you could ban VPN's. You could physically disconnect the country from the rest of the world's internet. You could impose digital id requirements on web access itself. By turning Britain into a totalitarian nightmare perhaps you could stop most of it. Is that a price worth paying?

The power to protect children, and indeed society, from this has to lie with parents. The State is a clumsy and untrustworthy actor to be asked to usurp parental responsibilities.

Parents need to stop demanding that the State protects their children online, and take responsibility for it themselves. Today's parents are not comfortable doing this, because they grew up in a pre-internet world. That will not be true of the next generation, and we have to hope that they will step up accordingly with their own children.

Parents have to stop being lazy about this as well. They need to understand that putting a child on a computer is not the same as sitting them in front of CBeebies for entertainment.

Parents need to talk to their children about what they see on the internet. They need to talk even before they let them loose on it. Children need to be "inoculated" by serious discussions about the horrors they are likely to encounter and what they should do about it, before they are set loose on a computer.

Obviously this won't work all the time. But we have let the genie out of the bottle already. There is no turning the clock back to a pre-internet world.

Mike Hind's avatar

One of the things I most enjoy about reading you is the tension I feel at times between my extremely liberal instincts (and historical political stances) and the nascent personal conservatism that has arisen since I saw through the Great Awokening. Your writing is important in this shift, being as I am increasingly convinced by your arguments about the role of the state.

What's interesting sometimes is when I balk. As I have done at this piece. I'm still mentally processing why, but it seems to me that almost all talk of pornography as a 'moral' issue is misplaced. It seems to me that the principle reason that pornography exists is because people are scared to have the sex they want with the appropriate partners. I cannot bring myself to see it as a moral issue at all (unless laws are broken in some way). My intuition is that porn serves as a substitute for full sexual intimacy (in all its mad iterations) because actually achieving it is risky and takes 'balls'. If everyone was having enough fun 'in the bedroom' porn would have much less appeal. I know this from personal experience - I have only ever used porn when my own sex life was either absent or disappointing. Isn't it just another market signal for something?

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